It's time to buy the engagement ring. You've done all your research and know exactly what you want to get. There's only one little thing holding you back from buying the ring...you don't know her ring size!
Keeping the proposal a secret has its own challenges and trying to find her ring size without revealing yourself can be quite tricky. Lucky for you, there are many different tactics that you can use to get the answer you're looking for. But be warned, each one has its own level of difficulty. Some may be easy but won't always yield the most accurate results while others will be difficult but will help you out the most in the end.
No matter which technique you choose, we want you to be confident going into any store to buy your ring. Find out 6 different tactics that you can use to find out her ring size:
Level of Difficulty: 4/10
One of the easier ways that you can figure out her ring size without her noticing would be to find one of her rings and borrow it temporarily. Normally we wouldn't condone taking anything without her permission, but in this case, we think it's for a good cause.
The trick is to be stealthy as you borrow the ring. Take note of where she keeps her rings, whether it be in a jewelry box or if she puts them on the nightstand as she goes to shower or get ready. Try to choose an opportunity when you will have more time so that you can be accurate and won't be worried about her coming back and exposing your secret.
It is very important to know which finger and hand she wears the particular ring on for a few different reasons. A woman's dominant hand might be larger than her less dominant hand. Also, each of her fingers will have a different ring size. If you tell this to a jeweler, they will help you come up with an approximate size depending on which hand and finger she normally wears the ring on.
Once you have the ring in your possession, you can do one of two things depending on the amount of time you will be borrowing the ring. If she's gone for the weekend, then you can take the ring to a local jeweler to have it sized. You can even buy your own ring sizer online to measure it yourself at home. If you have very little time to borrow the ring before she notices, you can even place the ring on a piece of paper and trace a circle around the middle. This circle can help jewelers figure out the size of the ring once you bring it in. Just be careful. The latter technique may not produce the most accurate results, so just be aware. For the best results, try to get the ring professionally sized using a special tool at a jewelry store.
Level of Difficulty: 3/10
Getting the help of family or friends can be a really easy solution to this problem. Chances are, at one point they've probably talked about engagement rings and ring sizes. Maybe they've tried some of their rings on, so friends and family will have a good idea of her relative ring size. But, with this comes a little uncertainty. Your results may not be as accurate as actually sizing a ring she already wears on a daily basis. Unless a friend or family knows with 100% confidence the ring size of your girlfriend, chances are you can only really get a "pretty good" idea of her ring size this way.
It may be worth reaching out to friends and family. Maybe at one point they've purchased a ring for her as a gift, and they would be able to reference this purchase. In these particular cases, friends and family would really be your best sources of information. But, the most important thing about this tactic is that you should be able to absolutely trust friends and family with your secret. The worst outcome here would be if one of them accidentally leaked the surprise proposal. If you know her friends and family well and trust that they could keep the secret, asking them for help may be a good option to consider.
Level of Difficulty: 7/10
This tactic will take some skill. Do you have it in you? If you think you can smoothly ask for her ring size in a conversation without giving anything away, it's a perfect technique to utilize in order to find her ring size.
You can be creative with how you bring it up in conversation. One idea would be to ask her ring size because you are buying a ring for your sister, mom, relative, etc. Whether you actually buy that ring is up to you, but you could ask her to give her ring size to get an idea of what size to get for the present. It can be used as a benchmark, even though we all know that the real ring is coming soon after.
Or, maybe you are at a wedding for a friend. Mention that the ring caught your eye and you wonder how the groom was able to figure out the ring size. Maybe she'll reveal her ring size as she explains her own theories.
There are a lot of ways to do this, so be creative! Just make sure you can execute it in a way that is natural and doesn't lead her down the path of suspicion.
Level of Difficulty: 5/10
This tactic is another one where it is incredibly important to trust whoever you bring in to help you. Recruiting the help of others is a little bit easier than trying to sneak the question into conversation, because there may be less suspicion on her part. A friend asking her ring size is way less obvious than if you were to flat out ask her. She would never suspect that you asked other people to get in on the proposal, so you may be able to find out in a more direct way.
One way of doing this is if she has a friend that just got engaged. Ask her friend to let your girlfriend try on her ring and have the friend ask her ring size.
The success level for this technique will vary based on the questions that your accomplice asks. If you have someone who bluntly asks what her ring size is, chances are you will receive an accurate answer. If you just know that her friend's ring is small on her finger, you are still left with a range of possible ring sizes.
Level of Difficulty: 1/10
Another tactic is to look at her finger size in comparison to yours. You can do this simply by inspecting her hand without her thinking too much into your actions. The level of difficulty on this is extremely low, but the room for error is high. Maybe you'll notice that you have similar size fingers or that hers are slightly smaller. Then you would need to determine your own ring size and try to estimate from there. You can also try on her rings secretly and see if they fit any of your fingers (like your pinky for example), then get your finger measured!
This does work in some instances, but you will need accept that there is a chance for error.
Level of Difficulty: 0/10
Ok, so the whole point of this article was to help you find her ring size in a more subtle and secretive way. However, sometimes when it comes down to it, you really may want to just ask her. Modern day couples are much less secretive about proposals. There are often lots of conversations that happen prior to the actual engagement. It might make sense the next time you are talking about marriage to just...ask her.
This doesn't mean you can't keep the actual proposal a secret. It is very common these days to discuss the engagement before actually committing. That way, you can be on the same page about the ring, making sure that it fits and is the style that she desires. The details of the proposal, however, can be kept as a secret so that she is still surprised.
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